Letting Go: How Leaders Help Others Thrive

Have you ever struggled with the decision to step back and let someone you’ve mentored take the lead? Leaders face a universal challenge, whether business professionals, coaches, parents, or spiritual guides. They must trust the foundation they’ve built and the ability of those who have learned, then back away and allow their followers to flourish. Though challenging, it is a necessity for leaders to “let go” and allow this new independence to grow.

As we delve deeper into the individuals who have significantly impacted us, it becomes evident that our approach to people is intricately connected to the influence we have received. Our mentors accepted us as we were then, understood our motivations, genuinely cared for us, and shaped our lives. They spoke truthfully and kindly, gave honest feedback when critiquing our progress, and held us accountable for our actions and decisions. They trusted us and our instincts. They sponsored us, pushed us to be the best in our profession or vocation, and supported us when it was time for them to step away and let us thrive.

Just as our mentors once passed the torch to us, it’s our turn to do the same for others. If we persist in teaching and inspiring people to think for themselves, especially children, it is more likely they will care about our thoughts and beliefs. We must continue teaching, encouraging, influencing, testing, verifying, and providing the resources others need to succeed. And then, get out of the way and let them grow. The greatest joy in teaching is not when the student mirrors the teacher but when they see their reflection, find their unique identity, and discover their potential.

We will surely meet people who will rise or fall to the level of others’ expectations. We will encounter individuals who have baggage, soured relationships, and tainted backgrounds. We should be willing to forgive them for their past shortcomings and failures. To help mold and shape their lives, we must look for the potential in people that isn't always seen. When we elevate people to surpass expectations and reach new levels, we enable them to become leaders their way.  We had our turn, and now it is theirs. It is their time to impact the future.

As leaders, our true measure of success is not how closely others have followed in our footsteps but how confidently they have forged their path.

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