Influence: Shaping Lives for the Better

Throughout our lives, we encounter countless forces that mold who we are and the paths we choose to take. Encouragement, a gentle push that helps someone believe in their abilities and potential, is one of them. Influence, however, wields a broader reach, shaping one’s beliefs, decisions, and behaviors. It often operates subtly, weaving itself into the fabric of our choices and perceptions, playing a distinct role in changing our lives.

Pablo Picasso, a pioneering artist, once said, “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” This message underscores the importance of self-discovery and sharing our unique talents. Each of us has inherent abilities and passions, and our journey in life is about exploring and embracing these qualities for personal growth. Once we have identified our gift, we are called to share it with others. This "purpose of life" implies that fulfillment comes from possessing a talent and using it to benefit others. By sharing our gifts, we enrich the lives of those around us and contribute to the greater good, promoting a life of introspection and selflessness.

Influence shapes the character, development, or behavior of others. Unlike the immediate boost from encouragement, influence is a sustained effort. It often stems from a position of respect, authority, or admiration that can steer attitudes, decisions, and actions over time, creating lasting impacts.

Some people can be influenced quickly. A repeated message can send them off and running, eager to fulfill their internal desires. Television commercials are a classic example of how influence drives people to react quickly. Car salespeople and real estate agents often use the fear of lost opportunity to push hesitant buyers.

Patience is key when it comes to influencing others. Change often takes time to sink in. People must process what they have heard or seen and convince themselves or justify their potential direction. For their mindset to shift, change must sound good, feel good, and make sense. Some people receive advice and counsel for years, even decades. With no apparent acknowledgment, time passes, and any efforts to influence may seem fruitless. But do not be discouraged. Character and behavioral changes often develop quietly, only to be recognized much later. And when they are, it's highly likely your influence had something to do with it.

Offer encouragement when someone needs a boost of confidence. Seek to influence others by guiding, inspiring, and creating lasting change. Together, these elements help uplift others, fostering growth and positive change in the lives we touch.

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